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Hey Lovelies and Dolls!

I wish I had time to update y'all on everything we have going on right now but I just don't have the time.

Soon though!

Lets just say that in less than a week we will be moved out of our house and in less than 30 days Mr. Superman will have received his honorable discharge and we will be on our way back to the West Coast!

Totally cray cray right?!

Through my years of blogging I've gone back and forth on Permissions and Anonymous Settings. I started out public, went private, went public but never allowed comments, public with comments, blocked anonymous comments, and back to where I am now with fully public and anyone is allowed to comment but I do moderate them by email before they're published.

In the last couple of months there has been contact with people whom I had completely cut out of my life and honestly didn't even think they would be readers. It doesn't bug me that these people are reading my blog but it bugs the ever-livin' bajeezees outta me that they feel they have the right to comment and email horrendous comments ANONYMOUSLY.

Grow a pair creepers!

I just changed my settings that will probably stay around permanently that anyone who wishes to comment HAS to have a registered email/OpenId.

If you have anything at all to say to me, do it like an adult. After all, its only fair I be given the chance to respond to you and address YOU and not some pathetic, pitiful, Anonymous ID.

Back soon my loves!

xoxo

I'm Glad He Said It, But I Need To Say It Too

If you watch the news, read the newspaper, are involved on Facebook, Twitter, or have ever heard of a Mormon, you probably know all about the mudslinging and name calling one Evangelical pastor has been busy doing. Its all about the Mormon Presidential candidates and how Mormon's should not be allowed into office because we are a cult.

Anyway, if you have read my blog for any length of time, you know that I am a Mormon. You'll also know how difficult it is for me to bite my tongue about something like this. When people come out and say things that are so degrading and hurtful, I get angry and upset and all I want to do is grab them and shake them and make them understand the truth. Honestly, the absolute ignorance of people astounds me. It hurts my heart more than anything else.

There is a wonderful rebuttal article written by another Evangelist that put things into words better than I think anyone could as far as the political argument. Here are a few of my favorite excerpts. Please go read it in full. Its a great justice to not only Mormon's but to other people attacked unrighteously.

"A bigot can be an inexcusable ignoramus who does not understand a group, but insists on opining about them. Another kind of bigot insists on applying irrelevant standards to a person. This is not excusable even if the standards are relevant in a different situation...."

"...To add insult to bigotry, the pastor decided to name call by saying Mormonism is a cult. The use of cult to describe the Mormon faith is foolish and offensive in a political context.

The word cult has many meanings, including a technical religious one. The Mormon Church is not “standard” historic Christianity as Mormons point out in their witness. They think they have something new and valuable to say religiously.

Most of the public does not think doctrine, but danger when they hear the term cult. He imagines scary folk living in compounds drinking Kool-aid, not Harry Reid or Mitt Romney.

In that popular sense, Mormonism is not a cult and should scare no American. Mormons have been faithful citizens, dying in our wars for republican values. Does Rick Perry’s pastor friend acknowledge this truth? Can a Mormon die for the Republic in battle, but still not serve as commander in the White House...?

For mainstream evangelicals such bigoted attacks on Romney are an embarrassment. They often seem to rely on fear of difference, a sense that other groups are “weird.” Everybody seems weird to somebody some time, but loving people get past such feelings. If the Mormon who dies for my freedom doesn’t seem weird, neither should the Mormon politician....

Evangelical Christianity does not place all power in the state and so rejects messianic leaders. We want a president, not a prophet in office. A Mormon cannot be my priest, but he can be my political leader.

Worse is the impact of bigotry on my Mormon neighbor. It is a betrayal of the love Jesus commanded us to show. If I can love my enemy, surely I can easily love the Mormon next door. I hate the pain caused my Mormon neighbor by ignorance and bigotry.

My Mormon friends do not complain or become defensive. Like the Christ, my experience has been resignation and love when my Mormon friends see slander.

Mormons saw their first prophet murdered by an American mob, but still they loyally serve a Republic whose laws have often failed them. They created a paradise in a wilderness and great literature and a first-rate university against all odds..."

In the interview that Anderson Cooper did with this pastor where he says these things about Mormons, he kept saying, "They are not Christians. They don't believe Jesus is the way to salvation." Even when Anderson read directly from our Church's website, he kept spouting of his hate filled rhetoric which was totally false.

Did you know that in the history of the United States, the Mormon religion has been the ONLY religion that has had an extermination order put out on it? Yeah, extermination (and even though not many were killed after hostilities were resolved after our church members  moved West, it wasn't officially repealed until 1976). We are the one and only religion where it has been 100% legal to kill us for the sole purpose of being a Mormon. No other reason. No other religion. There could be no retaliation of course because they'd just kill you for that. Countless people got taken out of their homes and got tarred and feathered, houses burned down, put in prison, driven out of state after state after state.... That's why most of us ended up on the West Coast :) Anyway, its just interesting that he kept bringing up the history of our religion in his interview and what values make up a Christian and yet, the name calling and the holier than thou attitude that guy has going on, is one of the most un-Christlike things that's been said and done in a long, long time. 

I can tell you right now, I AM a Christian. I know that the ONLY way for me to get back to my God is through the Atonement of my Savior Jesus Christ. He is who I follow. He is who I turn to. He is who I love. He is who I know.

I'm a wifey, angel baby mommy, Christian, and a Mormon. Now go spread the word that we're not about to go all David Koresh WACO on you guys okay?

I'm Not Back Yet, But...

People are driving me crazy. 

Have you ever attempted to be the bigger person but the more you try, it seems like people all over the place get more annoying, more insensitive, and the act itself gets seemingly more impossible?

I have.

Geeze I have. 

I wish I could just tell people exactly what I think of them, exactly what I feel, and exactly how WRONG they are without repercussions.

 

This has become my mantra and I so WISH I could walk around with this on a small portable billboard that runs on a constant loop. The more annoying or hurtful or ignorant the person is, the bigger and brighter this would flash.

Don't confuse silence with apathy or seemingly prevalent loneliness with the purposeful suppression of thoughts and feelings in an attempt to spare someone else's emotions.

Other times I wanna say, "Eff being the bigger person" and go and do what benefits me. Its almost an ever-constant tug-o-war. I have to keep myself in check, exercise epic self-control and make positive use of all my energy in moving onward and forward. The more space that there is between us and the dummies past, the better. 

Despite wanting to oft times throw ourselves on the ground, kick and scream, and then once once we are emotionally exhausted, just curl up in the fetal position and wait for the world to change, we must face the music. I don't know if you know this or not, but change doesn't just skip along and figure your life out for you.  Its about you putting your feelings on the back burner, sucking it up, and being the type of person this world so desperately needs more of. Rather than arguing back and wasting your energy on petty little things, focus on the words, thoughts, and emotions that will help you and even if it doesn't seem possible, the person that's making you turn into a crazy white girl who's about to open a big ol' can of wh...

Despite an almost instinctual reaction, we as humans need to sincerely think about what has been said or what we wish to say. Is any of it worth losing friends, hurting family, and losing ourselves to the compromise of what we know we SHOULD do? 95% of the time, you unknowingly become a self-deprecating pawn in the hands of negativity and pessimism.

 

Once I'm able to move far enough away from a certain person or a hurtful thing that may have been said, I'm able to start forgiving. Its funny really because forgiveness definitely isn't about another person. The act of forgiveness is solely and perpetually about US. 

Um... Come Again?

You know that feeling when you finally do something you've been working up the courage to do for years and then when you do, instead of feeling that heady sense of accomplishment, you're more sick to your stomach than anything else?

When I broke my silence, I was prepared to feel a little safer, a little more alive, and maybe even a little more in control. So far, I have felt unbelievably lost and in spite of all the kind words, I have allowed the hateful words of a few mar what should have been an incredible start to a new, ever-understanding, stronger than I could have imagined, support system.

Why is hate such a strong fuel for some people?

What do they gain from judging others so unfairly and without reason?

Is it because they are so self-loathing?

Is it because they are missing some vital part in their make up that keeps them from feeling remorse, empathy, sympathy, any good human emotion at all?

I just don't get it.

It always catches me off guard and even though there is that part of me that wants to retaliate and retort, more than anything else, it increases my desire to just curl up in a ball and forget my plans for the future. The plans that involved me taking a stand, forgetting the failure of establishments that are supposed to protect and save. Rather than delving into this world where everyone knows what happened to me and are sending me thousands of words of kindness, love, and hope, I want to just shut it all off. It makes me feel as if it would just be easier to shove it all back in that safe-guarded prison of my mind and pretend I can manage on my own.

Dear Anonymous

I have been blogging for about 2 1/2 years now, maybe a little longer. I just started getting really into it and finding other MilSpouse blogs and bloggers I have things in common with about 2 months ago. In the last 2 months, I have recieved more anonymous commenters than I have in the entire time I've been blogging. They used to make me mad and all fired up but now I just laugh. I decided to start saving these comments for a future post dedicated to these skeezies douche bags lovely readers.

Dear Anonymous: You left me a not so nice comment about my post HERE, where I shared a video from the AF Academy. You did not like the fact that I said, "I imagine being in the Air Force Academy, they have a lot more opportunities and freedom for their creativity spectrum and entertainment." You jumped all over me like white on rice and told me in no uncertain terms should I be talking about things I myself had never experienced. Um, come again? All I was saying was the video was great and that I loved that they had more freedom in being able to make that video. You said it was much harder than BMT blah blah blah. That is besides the point. The fact that trainees at BMT can't have camera's, phones, video cameras, etc. shows that the people in the AF Academy, do in fact, have more freedom, which is all I was saying.

Dear Anonymous: You left me a comment about my post HERE. You misquoted me then questioned me. Two big no-no's Mr. Anonymous. You also made no sense. Although it was difficult to grasp what you were trying to say and in spite of your 4th grade vocabulary level, I will attempt to address your comment. Yes, I said I am Pro-Life. Yes, I said that hearing about abortion makes me sad and sick to my stomach. Yes, I said my political beliefs reflect my religious beliefs. (I still don't know why you kept pointing out to me what I said.) Then you said something that I think amounts to "supporting the war and our troops amounts to murder" so I am "a hypocrite." I don't know if you missed what else I had said in that post about them being my personal opinions/beliefs and not wanting to spark debate about politics but even so, I will respond. I won't talk about whether or not I support "the war" but I will address the fact that you said, "supporting our troops amounts to murder." Are you stupid? I mean really. Are you American? Well even if you are a stupid American, you should support our troops. Them doing what they do, day in and day out, allows you to run the ridiculous words that come from your not so educated head. Them putting on their uniform everyday, allows ignorant idiots like you to question people such as myself. Regardless of whether or not you agree with the war, you should be supporting our troops.

Dear Anonymous: You left me a comment about the same post as the above HERE. You said, "Have you ever thought in all your 'religiousness' that perhaps you have lost so many babies because you are not meant to have kids?" This one kind of has me at a loss. I sense a little bit of sarcasm towards my "religiousness" but at the same time, maybe a bit of inappropriately placed curiosity? I wanted to rage on you but you didn't have the balls to let me know who you were. I mean, there aren't enough words in the English language to describe how insensate, unsympathetic, callous, ignorant, unintelligent, and completely insensitive your comment/question was. All I can do is really hope that you grow a pair before the next time you want to spew your stupidity and that someone in turn can have the eloquence I lack in ripping you a new one making you feel positively abashed.

Dear Anonymous: You left me a comment about my posts HERE, HERE, HERE, HERE, and, HERE. Let me start off by saying that for all your negativity and hatin' you must really love my blog because you KEEP ON COMING BACK. Apparently the fact that you think I am a "complaining, whining, illiterate, unimportant woman who tries to make myself feel more relevant by blogging about being a 'MilSpouse'" doesn't keep you from reading my blog and most certainly, doesn't keep you from being so irritated at me that you never come back. Too bad. I think my life would be complete if I never heard from you again. As for my complaining and whining, I have nothing to say besides this is MY blog, telling MY stories, and talking about MY life. If you don't like it, go jump off a cliff.  Now, concerning your claim that I am an "illiterate, unimportant woman who tries to make myself feel more relevant by blogging about being a 'MilSpouse'", I never claimed to be important or relevant. I also think you need to go look up the meaning of illiterate dearie because the fact that I can read your obnoxious comments and then in turn respond, proves you wrong. Dumbnuts.

Anyone else who is wanting to leave me a negative anonymous comment please rethink it, try to man up, grow a pair, and be an adult. There is no reason for hateful, antagonistic, or cynical attitudes. You're not only wasting so much of your own time and energy but mine as well. Making time to think up things to say and then spending time typing them out shows that you are indeed the ones who are unimportant people attempting to make yourself feel more relevant. This is my blog and I will continue to reject your comments and continue to put you on blast. Feel free to keep reading though!