The first situation happened about two weeks ago but it (surprisingly) slipped my mind when it came to posting about it. I saw almost exactly the same thing posted on Mrs. G.I. Joe's blog so I decided I'd post about it. Hopefully between the two of us, we can stop someone from opening their mouth again if they too have these ridiculous opinions or thoughts.
In an online forum, I was asked what my husband did for a living. I said that he was active duty Air Force. I was then asked if he had ever been deployed. I responded that no, he had not due to his being sort of a newbie. This was a group discussion about how to balance being a wife and juggling house duties along with having a separate life. It had absolutely NOTHING to do with the war, politics, the Armed Forces... just balancing life. The first girl who had asked about Mr. Superman's career then had the
To say I was pissed is way too much of an understatement. My heart started to race, my throat tightened, and my instincts were to reach through the computer and strangle this idiot. Come on, I would have been doing the world a favor. I didn't even know where to start. I definitely didn't take a moment to calm down, think, then reply. I laid into her. Here it is. (I saved it because it was a pretty good rant)
"First off, the only reason I am even acknowledging your ignorance is, not to make myself feel better or for the sake of having an argument, but to hopefully correct you and the others in this forum on the pure trash that you just took the time to type out. God forbid someone actually agree with you. Even though everything you said shows how utterly obtuse you are, I am not expecting anything I say to change your backwards, mixed up way of thinking. Obviously, what you said is what you truly believe about our military. Your lack of respect for our troops is sickening and your lack of understanding is laughable. I'll let you in on a few things.
Just because my husband is in his twenties and in the military doesn't mean everyone in the military is in their twenties. Too many words for you? Okay, everyone in the military is different. Just as in any other field of work be it pro sports player, doctor, construction worker, or teacher, they are all individuals. Individuals means nobody is the same. They all have their own identity. For you to say, "He's just another twenty something..." would be like me saying you are just another insecure, dense, ungrateful American. Oh wait, my example is correct. My husband enlisted because it is something he had ALWAYS wanted to do. For the record, my husband is the smartest person I know. He completed 3 years of full-time school while working two full-time jobs. What do you do? Have you finished your degree? I'm pretty sure that even half of what he does makes him the complete opposite of "lazy". I think the word you were looking for is hard-working or perhaps persevering. The mix-up is understandable though with your little brain working double time trying to keep up with the conversation. I won't hold your absolute disregard against you. I will just hope that you will start to think before you talk/type. I will continue to feel sorry for you and your petty little opinions. Lastly I will state that my husband does indeed, have a "real" job. What he does day in and day out, alongside millions of others, active duty and otherwise, make our country safe, keep our country free, and allows you to spout off about things you don't know anything about."
She logged off within five minutes of me posting my reply. Mrs. S.: 1 Biznatch: 0
This sadly, was not the first time I have met this attitude or opinion either. It is frustrating to say the least. Some people think that being in the military gets you attention and that's why people do it. Um... not even close. It is RARE to be acknowledged in a positive way or thanked. Yes, its true that when those rare occurrences do come along that Mr. Superman does feel a little proud. He loves his job. I am the one that is grateful beyond belief when people say "thanks". I love going places with him when he's in uniform. I feel special and so overwhelmingly proud it nearly brings me to tears. The reasons people enlist are all different but for the vast majority its because they desire to. They want to uphold our country's freedom and they are grateful to be given the opportunity to do so. Others think we do it for the money. That one is laughable. The military personnel don't make a whole lot. I promise. Even if he wasn't junior enlisted we wouldn't be making more than he could if he had a civilian job. Insane right?
Okay next situation. For those who know me know that I am extremely conservative. I say republican but I really lean further toward constitutionalist. For me, my religion comes first and the things I believe in and support politically, 100% reflect my beliefs and attitude religiously. One of the biggest things I advocate for is Pro-Life. I don't want to start an argument or political discussion. It is my belief that abortion is murder no matter why or when. No gray area, no straddling the line, just dry cut, clear and simple. I have been asked COUNTLESS times why I believe this and if I only started to support Pro-Life when I lost my first baby. First off, I believe this because I see abortion as murder. Murder is wrong. Anytime I hear about it, it makes me sick. I have always always always believed this way. I'm not a belief jumper and don't hopscotch over things that I don't agree with from time to time. My beliefs are solid and they stay the same. Yes, I have become an even more avid supporter of the Pro-Life movement since losing my babies and even more so since we discovered I cannot have children. It just really rubs me the wrong way when people snidely comment about my beliefs when it comes to this. Have some respect people.
Okay, I'm done.
♥ Mrs. S.