4.20.2010

You Shut Yo' Mouth!!

The two reasons for this post don't have anything in common really except for the fact that both situations were created by ignorant people running their mouths.

The first situation happened about two weeks ago but it (surprisingly) slipped my mind when it came to posting about it. I saw almost exactly the same thing posted on Mrs. G.I. Joe's blog so I decided I'd post about it. Hopefully between the two of us, we can stop someone from opening their mouth again if they too have these ridiculous opinions or thoughts.

In an online forum, I was asked what my husband did for a living. I said that he was active duty Air Force. I was then asked if he had ever been deployed. I responded that no, he had not due to his being sort of a newbie. This was a group discussion about how to balance being a wife and juggling house duties along with having a separate life. It had absolutely NOTHING to do with the war, politics, the Armed Forces... just balancing life. The first girl who had asked about Mr. Superman's career then had the gumption, balls, nerve, gall to say, "So your husband is just another twenty something year-old man who was too lazy to go to college and have a real job?" Stupid girl say what?

To say I was pissed is way too much of an understatement. My heart started to race, my throat tightened, and my instincts were to reach through the computer and strangle this idiot. Come on, I would have been doing the world a favor. I didn't even know where to start. I definitely didn't take a moment to calm down, think, then reply. I laid into her. Here it is. (I saved it because it was a pretty good rant)

"First off, the only reason I am even acknowledging your ignorance is, not to make myself feel better or for the sake of having an argument, but to hopefully correct you and the others in this forum on the pure trash that you just took the time to type out. God forbid someone actually agree with you. Even though everything you said shows how utterly obtuse you are, I am not expecting anything I say to change your backwards, mixed up way of thinking. Obviously, what you said is what you truly believe about our military. Your lack of respect for our troops is sickening and your lack of understanding is laughable. I'll let you in on a few things.

Just because my husband is in his twenties and in the military doesn't mean everyone in the military is in their twenties. Too many words for you? Okay, everyone in the military is different. Just as in any other field of work be it pro sports player, doctor, construction worker, or teacher, they are all individuals. Individuals means nobody is the same. They all have their own identity. For you to say, "He's just another twenty something..." would be like me saying you are just another insecure, dense, ungrateful American. Oh wait, my example is correct. My husband enlisted because it is something he had ALWAYS wanted to do. For the record, my husband is the smartest person I know. He completed 3 years of full-time school while working two full-time jobs. What do you do? Have you finished your degree? I'm pretty sure that even half of what he does makes him the complete opposite of "lazy". I think the word you were looking for is hard-working or perhaps persevering. The mix-up is understandable though with your little brain working double time trying to keep up with the conversation. I won't hold your absolute disregard against you. I will just hope that you will start to think before you talk/type. I will continue to feel sorry for you and your petty little opinions. Lastly I will state that my husband does indeed, have a "real" job. What he does day in and day out, alongside millions of others, active duty and otherwise, make our country safe, keep our country free, and allows you to spout off about things you don't know anything about."

She logged off within five minutes of me posting my reply.          Mrs. S.: 1    Biznatch: 0

This sadly, was not the first time I have met this attitude or opinion either. It is frustrating to say the least. Some people think that being in the military gets you attention and that's why people do it. Um... not even close. It is RARE to be acknowledged in a positive way or thanked. Yes, its true that when those rare occurrences do come along that Mr. Superman does feel a little proud. He loves his job. I am the one that is grateful beyond belief when people say "thanks". I love going places with him when he's in uniform. I feel special and so overwhelmingly proud it nearly brings me to tears. The reasons people enlist are all different but for the vast majority its because they desire to. They want to uphold our country's freedom and they are grateful to be given the opportunity to do so. Others think we do it for the money. That one is laughable. The military personnel don't make a whole lot. I promise. Even if he wasn't junior enlisted we wouldn't be making more than he could if he had a civilian job. Insane right?

Okay next situation. For those who know me know that I am extremely conservative. I say republican but I really lean further toward constitutionalist. For me, my religion comes first and the things I believe in and support politically, 100% reflect my beliefs and attitude religiously. One of the biggest things I advocate for is Pro-Life. I don't want to start an argument or political discussion. It is my belief that abortion is murder no matter why or when. No gray area, no straddling the line, just dry cut, clear and simple. I have been asked COUNTLESS times why I believe this and if I only started to support Pro-Life when I lost my first baby. First off, I believe this because I see abortion as murder. Murder is wrong. Anytime I hear about it, it makes me sick. I have always always always believed this way. I'm not a belief jumper and don't hopscotch over things that I don't agree with from time to time. My beliefs are solid and they stay the same. Yes, I have become an even more avid supporter of the Pro-Life movement since losing my babies and even more so since we discovered I cannot have children. It just really rubs me the wrong way when people snidely comment about my beliefs when it comes to this. Have some respect people.

Okay, I'm done.

♥ Mrs. S.

15 comments:

Caroline Steele said...

Boo for girl with the superiority complex. On the other hand, at least the majority of people have changed their minds and don't have the same point of view as when we were in Vietnam (my dad said when he was in Army ROTC they wouldn't even wear their uniforms on campus!)

Mr. Superman & Mrs. S. said...

I know right! It seriously caught me so off guard and then I about lost it. It took all my self control to not use four letter words.

Ricky & Kara said...

It sucks that idiots like her are floating around voicing their "well thought out" opinions without realizing what they're saying. But I am glad YOU were there of all people to set her straight.

Emily Ruth said...

I think running at the mouth is an epidemic going around. I too have experienced some idiots sharing their thoughts lately.
Ugh.
I always appreciate hearing when someone articulate gives them what they deserve though...
Great post.

Adam+Tatum said...

You go girl!Sad, there really are people out there with peanut size brains! Thanks to your wonderful hubby for being so brave/ honorable to risk his life for all of us! Thanks to you for supporting your hero of a husband and sacrificing your time together so he can defend our freedoms!

Eric and Marie said...

I've run into a few women like the first twit you posted about. It just makes me laugh. Dumbass ignorant people.

Kara said...

I can't believe people can be a) so ignorant and b) outright rude!

Chelle, I have SO much respect for your husband the rest of the men and women who have joined the military, for whatever reason. When Clay was in high school, he did Air Force ROTC and he was planning on becoming an officer in the Air Force after college. His plans changed due to a number of things that happened, but to this day he still talks about maybe joining the Guard to fulfill that dream of his to serve in the military. I am somewhat glad he never did join the Air Force, because I don't know how I would handle moving around all the time/having my husband possibly be deployed, etc. So taking all of that into consideration, I have the utmost respect for families like yours that sacrifice in order to serve our country. I'm so sorry people can't understand that.

Oh, and I think every word you said to her was deserved :)

Katie Savvy Steele said...

Thank you for saying these things, Rachelle. I agree with you in every single way, in every single word you posted here, and it makes those of us who have a hard time expressing that sort of thing feel a lot better. I cannot honestly believe that girl said that sort of thing about my brother. It is sick, just plain sick.

A Marine's Wife! said...

You go girl. People are so ignorant. Yay for sticking up for yourself and all the other people who support our men (and women!)

Team Mama said...

You go girl!!! I am proud of you and Cody- then we have Caroline coming up, Steve serving full time and Kevin in the Reserves. Things ARE better than they used to be- I was very impressed with how many times I heard "Thank you for your service" said to the troops when I was at the graduation in San Antonio. I am glad that you and Cody are Patriots- I am glad that you know how to stand up for yourself! I wear my AF Parents Pin proudly and have stickers on my car announcing that my son and my daughter are in the Air Force! God bless our troops!

-The Bergen Family- said...

I for one am so proud of our men and women in uniform! It doesn't matter if you believe in the war or not, everyone SHOULD SUPPORT OUR TROOPS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Good for you for your response. I, too, would have been so utterly furious, although, I don't think I would have been able to be so....nice in my response! LOL!

I totally agree that the military doesn't make enough money for what they do, but, just for the record, my husband makes more than he did when he was a civilian (he's been in for 7 years). That's one of the many reasons he joined the AF. :)

Kimberlee said...

I can't believe that woman had the nerve to say something like that to you. Does she not realize that the only reason she has the right to say things like she did is because of all the men and women in the military that fight for her to have that right. But what you said to her was absolutely perfect!

Amber said...

D.A.N.G!!!!!! I think this strikes a nerve with all of us military wives! Seriously.....my blood pressure is boiling!!!!

I can NOT stand ignorance!!!! Like you said, it is VERY rare to get any acknowledgement for being in the service, because we all normally live right around/on a base. We are ALL in it together.

Gesh...good response lady!!!!

A Marine's Wife! said...

I have an award for you on my page..cuz I totallyyy love your blog! :)