8.26.2010

The 'Aha' Moment

Heyyyyy! I've got Allissa from Hope Floats. I am so stoked, I love this girl! This post is fabulous and something I think we can all appreciate. Even though it is directed to us MilSpouses (SO's), it can help anyone. Its her "aha" moment and I love that she shared it. Thanks girl!


"Being that I'm sure many of you lovelies are military women, planning is something I'm sure most of you have grown accustomed to NOT doing. I, on the other hand, am a planner by nature. It is impossible for me to stop planning every step I was going to make, even when I was in a relationship with a soldier. I planned. I planned our leave together, then the dates got changed. I planned the next leave he was supposed to get, and it got shortened, then he had to go for a month of training in Arizona and it got pushed back again. Then the training in Arizona got cancelled and all of my plans were shot. While I cried out of sheer frustration and missing my soldier who should have been home two months ago, I couldn't seem to grasp the fact that maybe I should plan to stop planning and let life take it's course. He came home in May and while planning to not plan, I planned a blissful 21 days together before he was off to his next post.

Since then we have broken up (amicably), he's getting ready to head to The Big Sandbox and I have worked through the sadness and found the big L with someone else. That was SO not the plan. I imagined my entire life differently than the way it is turning out. I never imagined coming from a 'broken' home, having parents that are married to other people. I never imagined I would have 6 siblings. I never imagined that at 23 years old I would be living at home with my mom, dating a boy that I'm not so sure people in my family would approve of. I never imagined I would still be in school because I just couldn't decide what I wanted to do with myself. I also never imagined I would be this happy having no clue where I'm headed.

My best friend is marrying the military, and I used to have such a hard time grasping how she (and most of you) could do it. How could you be so happy, yet not know where you'll be as soon as six months from now. After the whirlwind of a summer that I have had though, I woke up the other day and I realized exactly how you do it. You can accept the unknown when you have someone by your side who makes the unknown less scary. When you find that, it's a little bit easier to accept that you might not know where you're going, but you'll always be right where you belong. Abandoning the plan just might have been the best thing that ever happened to any of us."

7 comments:

Radiant Readhead said...

Absolutely!!! my hubby and i were just talking about this!!! how much we love our house, but it is just a house, where we are together is what makes a home:-)

Me!! said...

I love this post! :]

It is so true!!

Miss E said...

I absolutely love this. This has become the only thing that's been my problem in the past few months with Laine but I gave up on my planning three months ago. Home is where the heart is and that's all that really matters though right? :)

Kathi said...

Aha! I just found someone that thinks a lot like me!
Loved this post!
Heading over to Allissa's blog now. :)
<3,

Kathi

Skinnie Piggie said...

Thanks for this! Right now our unknown is looming in the not so distant future, haha...

Ash and Matt | A SoCal Story said...

I loved the last sentence in this post. It reminds me of a Joseph Campbell quote that I love, which goes something like this: "We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us."

I'm a total planner by nature, but I've learned that some of the best things in life are the ones that we never would have planned for!

addicted2shius said...

Beautifully put, I love it!!!